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Best Friend vs Best Friend

This past weekend, I attended a youth retreat and the speaker made a joke about how every girl has about seven "best friends". He then proceeded to say that this makes no sense because you can't have seven friends who are the best. This got me thinking: why do we call it a best friend?

The term "best friend" could potentially create a lot of unnecessary competition. What do you do if one best friend get's jealous of another? Or wants to be the only one? Not that some girls don't do that anyways, but why encourage this competitiveness with such an exclusive term?

Now don't get me wrong, I am 100% guilty of using the term "best friend". In fact, I probably overuse the term. However, I've never used it with the intention of placing one friend in rank over another. So here's my new dilemma: if I'm going to use a term so frequently, what do I mean by it? In other words, what is a "best friend"?

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A best friend, in my opinion, is someone who's qualities push you to be better. Each of my best friends do this in their own, unique way. Christian, for example, has a unique ability to bring happiness to any situation and love without condition. Or there's Bridget, who pushes me towards success in every area of life and understands me on a level that's borderline creepy. Or Bella, who has been my biggest cheerleader since our friendship began and the strongest optimist I know in hard times. I could go on and on about each individual best friendship I have, but my point is this:

A best friend is not a best friend because they're the best of all friends. Rather, what makes a best friend is that they create, in you, your best self.

That said, shoutout to all of the incredible best friends that my life has been blessed with. Thank you for the unique qualities you bring to my life, the inspiration you give me, and the laughter along the way.

Lots of love,
Amy
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  1. Esther SchultzSeptember 25, 2017 at 12:52 PM

    This post was very enlightening. I have never thought of best friends in the way that you have presented it this post. It makes total sense! I love how much freedom your conclusion brings. You are totally right, that phrase "best friend" brings a lot of unnecessary competition. When your friends are making you your best self though, it eliminates the competitiveness and embraces each friend and their qualities.

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    1. Amy MaeSeptember 27, 2017 at 2:05 PM

      YES! I love how you worded this, as well. Rather than compete, we should empower one another by embracing that uniqueness and individuality we all have. :)

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